The desire to give your lover an incredible experience in bed leads to various experiments and the realization of intimate fantasies. One of them is anal sex, which more and more couples are venturing into.
Such love pleasures require special preparation and caution, and therefore have many questions. The most important are how to avoid pain and discomfort and what is the depth of anal.
The rules of spicy coitus
Anal sex is a dream of most members of the stronger sex and a secret fantasy of many women. From the point of view of sexologists, “rear intercourse” is quite a healthy type of intimate relationships. If both partners wish to diversify their personal lives and observe the precautions, there are no obstacles.
But it should be remembered that the anus is not part of the genital system and physiologically is not intended for sex. Therefore, before inserting the penis into it it is necessary to take into account all the factors that can cause serious consequences for the girl’s physiological and psychological health.
Successful anal intercourse requires:
- a trusting relationship in the couple;
- a psychological mood for a pleasant sensation of intercourse;
- proper preparation;
- knowledge of the basic rules.
Anatomical peculiarities
The length of the surgical anal canal, the main part of the anus located from the anorectal ring to the anal border, is 4-5 cm. The average values are 4.2 cm. Next is the rectum, which is about 12 cm long, followed by the sigmoid colon. There are no sharp bends or kinks between the last two parts of the intestine. This structure of the anus allows a penis of any size and length to freely penetrate the body of the partner.
The width of the anus is a more delicate issue. Thanks to pornographic videos, there is an opinion that it is possible to stretch the anus opening to unimaginable sizes. This requires only regular training with a gradual increase in the volume of the object inserted into the ass. But this is a myth!
Stretchability of the anus is strictly individual: some representatives of the weaker sex can easily insert a clenched fist, while others, even with daily “back intercourse” cannot “take” anything but the index finger.
Anal sex is capable of bringing special sexual pleasure. But still, the anatomical features of the anus suggest the “withdrawal” of dense objects from it, not the “insertion”. Therefore, in the normal state the ring of the anus is tightly compressed and opens only for emptying the bowels.
The opening is about 4-5 cm in diameter, after which the sphincter returns to its normal position. A similar process occurs during intimate pleasures: when the penis is inserted, the anus opens to accept it, and after sex it contracts tightly again.
The difference between the anus and the vagina
These two organs have common characteristics and cardinal differences. For example, the length of the female vagina varies from 7 to 14 cm, while the anal opening reaches 14-18 cm and is able to increase due to the sigmoid colon. This automatically removes the problem of “it’s too big for me” – a penis of any length will fit in the anus.
The next aspect is elasticity. The vagina consists of muscles, and they require training. If a woman keeps sexual rest for a long time, the vagina loses tone, the muscles become flabby. Elasticity also decreases after the birth of the baby, because during the birth of the baby the vagina shortens and stretches a lot in width to let the head of the baby in. Therefore, it needs time to regain its tone.
Weakened muscles are a major cause of a partner’s lack of pleasure. If the vagina is not able to grip the penis tightly, it takes longer for a man to reach orgasm, and this affects the pleasure of coitus itself.
The muscles of the anus are always toned. The tight opening of the ass tightly embraces the penis along its entire length, starting from the entrance itself, and additionally stimulates the penis throughout coitus. This allows the partner to achieve incredible pleasure from sex.
A vivid anal orgasm is not uncommon for the partner, either. The tightly clenched muscles of the anus, when the head of the penis is inserted, gradually loosen, allowing it to pass inside, which relieves the first discomfort sensations. Stimulation by the penis of the many nerve endings and erogenous points located in the sphincter provides unforgettable pleasure.
Opinions and prejudices
Since ancient times, intimate relations of a “back” nature were considered a manifestation of perversion. Since there is only one way of sexual relations by nature, any deviation from the traditional forms of coitus was considered a sin and was strictly forbidden and condemned.
After the sexual revolution of the last century, opinions have changed, and today more and more couples are practicing “back-rolling. Sexologists around the world support this change and unanimously state that, with the consent of both partners, such coitus is beneficial for lovers. It contributes to:
- strengthen the relationship;
- to increase trust in the couple;
- harmony between a man and a woman;
- variety of sexual life, the emergence of a certain zest.
But opponents of anal sex also abound. According to them, the insertion of the penis head into the anus can only bring harm to a woman’s physical health and damage to her psyche.
The right attitude
The last statement is not without merit. So, the fear of pain or discomfort, the fear of being “misunderstood” can play a trick on a woman. It is the thought of being judged by the partner, the conviction that he will consider her accessible or perverted, that makes ladies give up anal coitus. That’s why it’s harder and more important to decide to have this kind of sex psychologically.
The level of trust between partners plays a major role. Harmony and love is one of the factors that can remove all inhibitions. The second aspect is a passion for experimentation and discovery, bringing novelty into bed life. Therefore, we should forget about the false myth of harm to health. Sexologists say that anal intercourse is not only not harmful to the physiology, but even healthy. And both for women and men.
Toys for anal
The marketing market is replete with a variety of products for sexual play. Among them are a lot of devices used in anal sex. They have different purposes:
- pumps, pumps – gently act on the sphincter muscles and expand the anal opening, which facilitates the entry of the head of the man’s penis and relieves the discomfort of the first minutes in women;
- balls of various sizes: they increase anal diameter and softly stimulate erogenous points, affecting nerve endings and arousing the partner;
- stimulators, anal vibrators increase arousal, prepare the lady for orgasm, enhance sensations of coitus;
- lubricants – facilitate the insertion of the penis into the anus.
Lubricants are important and indispensable components of anal sex. The anus does not secrete as much natural lubricant as the vagina, so extra gliding is a must. It helps to relieve discomfort at all stages of intimacy and avoid minor injuries and damage.
How to prepare for anal
The anal opening, as well as the vagina, is very sensitive, and therefore not indifferent to tactile and oral caresses. Lubricants, such as special lubricants, natural or aromatic oils are an obligatory attribute of the intercourse from behind. The latter will add a special charm to such sex.
Before insertion of the penis the asshole should be “manually” prepared: stimulation with fingers with a gradual stretching of the opening will widen the sphincter and prepare the partner for the introduction of a larger object.
You should not use stimulators and vibrators for the first anal intercourse: a woman should first psychologically prepare herself to “play from behind” without strangers. When internal barriers are removed, you can move on to toys and other intimate objects.
It is necessary to listen to your own sensations and those of your partner: if there is pain or discomfort you should stop friction and gently remove the penis from the anus.