Giving a blowjob is one way to show a woman your special relationship with a man. This type of intimacy means that the partners trust and are open to each other. But this kind of oral caress is denied by some women and not everyone knows how to give a blowjob correctly.
Sexologist’s opinion on oral sex
Professionals say that oral caressing is good for family life. Husband and wife who practice fellatio spend more free time together, do not avoid communication with each other during the day.
In such families, according to sexologists, seven times less quarrels occur than in couples who do not accept oral sex. According to doctors’ observations, men in such couples do not have problems sleeping, they fall asleep faster, they are not bothered by nightmares and insomnia.
And according to social surveys, husbands who receive oral sex often dream about their spouses. In contrast, in couples where blowjobs are forbidden, husbands more often dream about unfamiliar or strange women.
Why to give a blow job, pros:
- Safety. There is no danger of getting pregnant during this kind of caressing. You can give pleasure to your partner without any protection, without fear of consequences, even in the most “dangerous” days of the cycle.
- Quickness. If a girl knows how to give a blowjob well, the process takes less than a minute. This can be useful when there is a danger of being seen or there are time constraints.
- Intimacy does not depend on the surrounding conditions. Sometimes the desire for pleasure can come suddenly. If the conditions are not suitable for sex, it is more convenient to resort to oral caresses. For example, when you are a guest, on the street or in transportation.
- The possibility of intimacy at the time of menstruation. A small percentage of women have periods for a week to 10 days, that’s their peculiarity. For young, temperamental men, this is a long time for abstinence, they can hardly withstand even five days. Moreover, not all women agree to have sex during their periods, as well as not all men. A blowjob is a great way out in such situations.
What do men dislike about oral caressing?
Such a pleasant process can be marred by certain things. Any man is annoyed if his partner agrees to a blowjob as if she were performing a feat and doing a favor. Sexual intercourse should bring joy to both partners, not look like forced sex. Don’t like it:
- When the woman you love caresses your penis with a cold, stony face, it ruins all romance. A man wants to see at least some signs that his penis is not disgusting, and that it brings pleasure.
- Physical discomfort can be very disconcerting. For example, when a girl begins to complain that her leg is stiff, her back hurts, or her mouth is numb.
- Teeth can cause a lot of trouble. If handled carelessly, they traumatize the delicate skin on the penis and cause pain.
- Be careful with sharp fingernails or rings. They, too, can damage the surface of the penis and cause severe pain.
- During oral caressing one should not stimulate the scrotum too much, because excessive tension and squeezing of such a sensitive part is unpleasant.
- Too much dick movement can ruin the whole mood.
- It’s not a good idea to talk during oral caressing, though it’s hard to imagine, but men complain about such moments on forums. It’s easy to let the penis out of your mouth at the most responsible moment when you’re talking.
What men like in the moment of oral caressing
A blow job is a nice caress, but there are some things that are especially pleasing to a man:
- The penis as a whole is not an erogenous zone. Its shaft itself is not as sensitive as the head, the neck of the head and the frenulum. There are also many nerve endings on the lower part of the shaft. Caressing these parts will be the most pleasurable.
- Sometimes a light touch of the teeth is very arousing. It should be gentle touching, not biting. It is advisable to keep the same rhythm for the greatest effect.
- Stimulation of the penis and testicles simultaneously with your mouth and hands increases the sensations.
Types of blowjobs
According to the types of caresses can be distinguished varieties of blowjobs:
- Pure, in which only the lips and tongue are involved. It does not involve the hands at all. This is a good way for beginners. You can learn the basic movements on this variant. The main thing is to make sure that you do not hurt the genitals with your teeth.
- Combination view. Here it is necessary to give a blowjob not only with the lips, but also to add caressing with the hands. The penis is stimulated simultaneously with the mouth and hands or alternately. This method is good if the man’s penis is large and the girl needs to rest. With the hands the caressing is much more active than the stimulation with the mouth. At the same time you can make movements with your hands so that they visually look beautiful.
- The throat version. This is one of the most difficult methods, but men unanimously assert that it is the best blowjob. It is not called “royal” for nothing. With this option, the penis goes completely into the throat. The biggest difficulty is that touching the larynx causes a gag reflex. This reflex is difficult, and often impossible to get rid of. But this can be achieved with training or with a spray that freezes the larynx.
An artificial phallus will do as a simulator. It is fastened on the table, for which it is convenient to use a version with a suction cup, and then proceed to the training.
To make the plunge a success, do the exercise at a comfortable angle and make a long “A” sound, which helps the larynx to open up. Such training is beneficial, and over time the gag reflex disappears.
Techniques of blowjobs
Skillful techniques can bring variety to intimate life and bring many new sensations. To master them, you can watch a video lesson or go for training. A few common techniques:
For Beginners
Use your lips to make an “O” and cover your teeth. While holding the penis, move your wet lips over it. When you reach the limit of comfort, pause for a few seconds and go back. Repeat the movement. You can add your tongue to the action, running it along the shaft of the penis.
Eskimo
A very simple, easy technique. To give a blowjob, you pull the skin of the penis down, thus releasing the head. And then imagine that it is an ice cream and start licking it with your tongue. Any movement, the more interesting, the better. To make a variety, you can try to write on the head all the letters of the alphabet. The main thing is that your tongue is wet and your teeth are not involved in the act.
Hickey
It is necessary to imagine that the mouth is a vacuum cleaner, pull the penis into the mouth about halfway, and then try to pull it out without loosening the vacuum.
The speed at which you do this varies widely. Many people like these movements to be done quickly. The tongue is not needed here and can only interfere. It is very important not to damage the penis with your teeth.
Deep Throat
Or the Royal Blowjob. The same technique that men love so much – the penis penetrates deep into the throat. This technique often causes gagging when performed. For such a blow job, the larynx is opened and relaxed, then the penis slips easily inside.
There are special sprays that freeze the larynx, usually containing lidocaine. By “freezing” the throat, the woman loses her gag reflex for a small amount of time. This technique can be learned by practicing on a phaloimetator, but not all women are able to cope with the gag reflex without freezing.
Crazy orgasm
For this trick, a finger overlaps the canal at the base of the penis, through which the sperm flows. The mouth and hand continue to massage the penis along the entire length of the shaft. Clamping imitates the spasm that accompanies ejaculation. When the canal is released by releasing the finger, the orgasm is more intense and longer than usual.
Kitty
You need to sit comfortably between a man’s legs and start caressing his crotch with your tongue. From his anus and all over his crotch, not forgetting a single inch of his body. The movements resemble the way cats lick water with their tongues.
Wet
To do it, you need to lubricate your hands with gel-lubricant and not swallow saliva. The penis will be very wet and the sliding will be intense. Take the head in your mouth and then move it away and let it pop out of your mouth with a popping sound.
Conclusion
The most comfortable position is on your knees in front of your standing partner. It is necessary to allow the man to make any movements that he wants and not to resist. It is better to help with the tongue.
The most important thing in a blowjob is not the technique that the couple uses, but a mutual desire to give pleasure. There is no need to make a variety “for a tick”, it should be sincere and with love.